Is your business sucking the life out of you at the moment? Don’t know what to do but know you need to do something. Then read on…
Every business has a beginning, middle and end; this rhythm is mirrored in Nature and the Stars. To keep innovating you must let go of things that are not working. Sometimes that means…
Breaking hearts (yours). Breaking bad (it can get ugly). Breaking up.
The old way is falling apart, while the new is being birthed. As a Creative Genius, your Great Work is not going to look like Sally Sue down the street. Maybe you started out copying a model that worked for Sally Sue. Maybe you copied your coach’s model. Then your creative juice kicked in you went gang busters rocking out some great new stuff…and then it petered out. Now what?
Are you applying a “One Size Fits All” approach?
I see way to many *healers in business holding on: to a business structure that’s not working for them. Just look at the telesummit model. Who has time to sit through 10+ hours of interviews with people saying the same thing. Maybe you read a “one size approach” in a freebie or some “guru coach” told you do this (sit there long enough and they’ll shout at you). Whatever stopped you cold. No joy, no action. Maybe your creativity dried up.
I see way to many *healers in business afraid to speak up because Mom and Dad’s voice is still renting space in their head around mo.ney and being entrepreneur. What they forget is NO ONE in their family EVER owned a business yet they listen to family members cut their creative ideas down. The “get a job” mentality is sucking the entrepreneurial life out of them. When you do get good advice, you’ll go into doubt because Mom and Dad’s still are so fricking loud in your head! (join the next round of the Moonlight Money Mastery Course).
I see way to many *healers in business holding back. Afraid to be seen. They think they know what to do, get in the middle of a muddle and then sit back with no money, afraid to reach out and ask for support. That’s no fun either.
I broke my business. Deliberately. Course corrected. The action put me out of commission for 60 days while I figured out what was wrong, ways I got caught up in a “business model” that wasn’t working for me and gave my power away. I rebounded.
This summer my dog died, another time-out while I cried and cried. Big stuff I was holding onto let go. Now I’m a whole lot happier.
Breaking Up is Hard to Do!
Here’s the truth. Sometimes you have to break up what you’ve put your heart and soul into. Close up shop to put it back together. Walk away. You’ve outgrown it. It doesn’t call to you anymore. It’s not fun. This doesn’t mean you failed, it means you’re at the end of something. Sometimes you can’t see it because you’re in the middle of it. All you know is business is hard and it sucks.
The longer the breakup, the more painful it gets. While you’re beating yourself up nothing gets done. Your level of anxiety goes through the roof and your self-esteem goes straight into the toilet. So Scorpio!
4 Steps to Breaking Bad
Sweetie the next 40 days it’s going to get intense (October 18-November 27th). Scorpio is all about transformation and letting go. Ruled by Mars, Pluto and Chiron, the Sun moving through Scorpio shines a big light on blocked emotions in the body. Shadow issues. The shame and blame you don’t want to see or acknowledge. The elephant in the room everyone wants to ignore.
Step 1) Figure out what’s not working. Lions. Tigers and Bears. You can’t course correct the business with the same mindset that got you into this place. Step away. Simply ask “What’s not working in this _________?” and “What’s my next step?” Expect an answer. Gut checks, oh NO! moments. A good sign is you’ll start crying (you’ve been holding on for so long). Yes it hurts. Your stomach will feel it first. You may get angry. You’ll go through the five stages of grief. It’s a death. Then you can start again.
Be brave. Be bold. You might be angry just reading this post. Decide to unsubscribe because I’m not all “LOA” at the moment. Okay. You’ll still be in the muddle pretending everything is okay and it isn’t. Justsayin.
Step 2) Go play. Schedule a play day (a couple of them). Go window shopping. Go to an antique store. Cook your favorite meal. Your answer may come standing in the shower. In the middle of the night at 3 am. It may come on a walk in the woods. Playing with your kids. It may just suddenly land. Write it down. Keep writing the aha’s down. Honor the wisdom of your inner muse by writing it down. Don’t dis Spirit. Make an offering (tobacco, corn meal, sage) to your altar and/or land to honor the exchange with Spirit. Grab some Kleenex- more crying in joy.
Step 3) Make space. Create sacred space for this wisdom to inform you. Staying busy, acting as if nothing is wrong is how you got here in the first place. Julia Cameron’s Artist Way Morning Pages are a good thing while you’re going through the muddle. So is creating SoulCollage® cards. Crying stops. You’ll see an answer.
Step 4) Get support. I’d love to help you make sense of this, reach out and book a session. As a builder I’m really good at taking things apart; it’s my Aries moon and my Scorpio rising. As a seasoned entrepreneur I won’t ask you to do something I wouldn’t do myself. Click here to book a session with me.
Your mess is your message. You are called to heal and then teach from that mess-
therein lies your Genius. Your soul’s work. Find your Genius remembering…
“And, in the end The love you take is equal to the love you make.”
* P. S. All women are healers.